Match.com

A month or two ago I mentioned that I had signed up for an online dating membership. On the recommendation of my friend D-Ron I picked Match.com. It was a fiasco, both the dating and billing aspects. I didn't have any great dates from it and Match billed me for a month or two more than I signed up for. I cancelled my subscription but I still found a charge from them last month. I disputed the charge on my card but they are still billing me despite closing my account. It's very frustrating.

I spent 20 minutes this morning on the phone with my credit card company trying to get the charge credited. You would think it would be easy to dispute a $30 charge, but it practically takes an act of congress. Finally, the lady said the credit would appear immediately on my account. A few minutes ago I logged into my online statement and the credit was shown. This is the good news.

I had taken my profile down last month, so I logged into match.com and made sure all my photos and profile were gone. The pictures were gone, but my account still appeared to be active. I was hoping everything would be shut down as that would be a good sign that I would not be charged for further services.

The bad news is that while I was logged into Match curiosity got the better of me. I mentioned before that I had stumbled upon Kay's profile, so I tried to find it again. I didn't know her user/profile name, so I typed in her age and did a search. A few pages of profiles came up and it took me a minute to find hers. When I did, I noticed that her profile picture had changed, and that the tag at the bottom of her profile said that she had been active "within 24-hours".

There are two sides of me battling for control right now, and they each make compelling arguments.

The rational side is making the following argument: "Match.com is a scam, look at your billing. And those counters are probably inaccurate. In fact, you have always suspected that they were specifically designed to be misleading and to make you think that more people are active online than there actually are. Their business model is based on membership and activity levels being high. Plus, Kay is away and probably doesn't have access to a computer anyway."

The easily enraged, highly flammable, irrational side said: "That fucking douche changed her picture, was online last night, and is still trawling the web for dudes!"

I'm really not sure what to make of this. I am generally not a trusting person, and rarely give anyone the benefit of the doubt, it's not in my nature. Some may interpret this as an insecurity, but I say that's bullshit. Suckers are trusting, I'll take skepticism over trust everyday of the week and twice on Sundays. However, I would like to think that I am skeptical and rational.

The important question is, "What do I do about this?".

Since Kay and I have never had any conversations about our relationship (or if we are even in a relationship), I suppose I really don't have any grounds for being angry.

To put the shoe on the other foot, if I confronted her, Kay could turn around and say "Well, you were online looking at chicks and stumbled across my profile. What does that make you?". While not true, it certainly does make me look sneaky.

I guess the adult course of action here is to have a discussion about where we stand. Then either bring up the match.com membership or not. I don't want to blow this out of proportion, but it does aggravate me a bit.

I have a feeling today is going to be a productive day in the gym. Should be lots of sore muscles tomorrow.