Inner-Slut

I'd like to use a comment on my last post as a spring-board to another topic; womens' "inner-slut". I hypothesize that all women (and men, to be fair) have an inner-slut, or freaky side, that they generally try to suppress but that makes an appearance on occasion.

I will let you read the Football Weekend post, and West LA's full comment, but the part that sparked this post was:

"why [girls] find you guys irresistible in your wild drunken mode?"

I don't want to dwell on the football game, and I don't think girls find us irresistible. I believe women use vacations and parties as an excuse to behave in a way they normally would not. "Wild drunken mode" is a symptom of the place, and women too act differently in that place. Men get drunk, women get slutty.

Spring break is a perfect example. If you have ever been to Panama City, or Cancun, you know that most dudes act like a drunken fools, and most women are a few degrees sluttier than normal. Is it the alcohol? It certainly helps. Drugs? That too. But I think that when people operate outside of their normal sphere of consequences (judgement) they are free to act on their more primal urges (sex, drugs). We feel that if no one is looking, we can do whatever we want.

There's a place in the southwestern desert that has carved out a nice little niche based on this behavior. You may have heard of it, it's called Las Vegas? The motto "What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas" pretty well sums it up. The entire city is built upon the premise. It's their fucking marketing slogan!

If we can agree that scenarios exist where people make decisions they would normally find immoral, or at least, unusual, then we can look at the decision making matrix for those scenarios.

You don't have to use an example as extreme as Vegas or Cancun to illustrate the point. Almost anyone who has ever traveled for work will tell you that a hotel bar during the week is a den of iniquity. Women are alone, they meet someone they are attracted to, they know they can go up to that guy's room and have wild sex with him without being called a slut by their girlfriends. It's that simple. The urge is always present, it's the absence of criticism that overrides restraint.

Let's take it one step further. A woman has met a guy under abnormal circumstances, and has decided she is going to go home with him. She has already crossed the line of "slutty", so she now feels free to indulge in all her urges. There are no incremental degrees of slutty. What's beyond slutty? Super slutty? I don't think so. So she went home with him, she might as well get spanked, or pee on the guy, or whatever her urge is.

To back track to the original point: I don't think women find football games arousing. And I don't think they necessarily find hammered guys sexy. I think they find the lack of judgement liberating, and thus override their normal urges to act prim. During college they may have thought a guy was good looking, but they didn't have sex with him because their girlfriends would criticize them for it. However, years later at a weekend trip she has the same urge to sleep with the guy, but the consequences are no longer present.

Finally, West LA suggests that this may be my modus operandi. Perhaps. But I am not suggesting this behavior is a function of MO. I think it would be better to think of this in terms of Freud's "id" and "ego". If daily life is a woman's ego, then her inner-slut is her id.