Tiny Little Girl

Last night I had drinks with this petite girl I met on Match and surprisingly had a good time. The date started and ended a little awkwardly but overall I would say it went about as well as can be expected from an Internet introduction.

We decided to meet up in Dupont because she lives in the area. I arrived early and she arrived a little late. Why are girls always late? Is it on purpose?

Initially when she walked in I was a bit disappointed. Her teeth looked a little jacked up and very dark like she was a heavy smoker. I'm not a fanatic about teeth, but they do say a lot about a person's hygiene. However, I think the lighting had a lot to do with my first impressions, and later when we moved seats I didn't notice it as much.

Tiny: I'm going to call this girl Tiny because she was like a little doll. Tiny is 33 years old, which is older than I've been dating lately. She is no more than 5 feet tall, and maybe 90-100 pounds. She had long brown hair, a moderately dark complexion (she's part Italian and part English), brown eyes, and a very pretty face. The best words to describe her are cute and sharp (she's extremely smart, great school, impressive career).

I really liked how Tiny was dressed. She had on dark jeans, tall black boots, and this crazy sweater that had lots of buttons and straps. It was puffy up top, but tight in the waist. In one of her online pictures I noticed that Tiny had a disproportionately large chest, so I think the sweater was used to camouflage them. It's a smart move for a girl to keep big boobs hidden if she's trying to get an unbiased read on a guy. I don't consider myself a boob guy, but showing off your chest on a first date can illicit "false positives" from the date. That is, he may make believe he's into you for the wrong reasons. Like I said, it doesn't make a difference to me.

It was about 8:30 at this point, and we sat at the bar and had a drink. The conversation was strained at first. This is the big problem with meeting online, you don't have any history together to fall back on during a lull in conversation. I think it's forced to say "So, I read on your profile that you enjoy snorkeling and that you have three siblings, tell me about that." I try to make no mention of how we met. I don't want to know why you're dating online, how many dates you've gone on from it, how they went. I completely ignore how we "met".

We decided to get a table. Conversation picked up after a short time and we found that we had a few things in common. I was starving so I asked if she was hungry. Tiny had already eaten, but we ordered some appetizers to share.

We ate and had another drink after dinner. We chatted and Tiny was laughing a lot, so I thought it was going fairly well. At around 11pm we finished our drinks. The waitress asked if we wanted another round and we both declined. For me, this is the most difficult part of the evening and where I get stressed. I wasn't getting the sense that Tiny necessarily wanted to leave, but there also weren't any signals that she wanted to stay. If it was the weekend and she declined another drink (we only had two) I would have thought that the evening wasn't going well. However, it was a Monday, so it was perfectly normal to decline more booze. I only saw two options. I could try to keep the conversation going and risk her thinking "Geez, this guy won't shut up. We finished our drinks, take a hint, dumb ass, I want out of here!", or I could ask for the check and she could think "OK, what's the rush? He must not be into me", which totally wasn't the case.

The waitress came by and asked if we would like dessert. Tiny said no so I asked for the check. Tiny seemed a little surprised but she didn't say anything. I cleared the tab then we went outside.

When we got to the street I asked if I could walk her home. Tiny said "Oh, it's only a couple of blocks", which I took as a no. I know some women get a little sketched out having a guy they don't know well walk them to their house or know where they live so I dropped it. I said I had a great time and that I would like to get together again if she was interested. She said yes, and I leaned in to kiss her on her cheek. This is where it got awkward again. I first thought Tiny didn't want me to kiss her, but then as I made my way for her cheek she kind of turned and kissed me on the lips. To be honest I got around six mixed signals in three-tenths of a second. I don't know if she wanted to make out or run for the hills. After the highly awkward kiss I said good night then turned and walked toward the metro.

On the escalator to the metro I regretted not pushing a little more to walk her home. I think I misread that signal. I have a feeling she wanted me to walk her to her place and was being coy by saying it was only a few blocks. I'm still not sure what was up with the kiss.

I'm going to hang back a bit with Tiny. I got so many mixed signals from her that I can't say with any certainty if she had a good time. I think it's best to relax and see what happens.